A friend of mine from college, looks a lot like Amber Heard at about 5.5 inches tall. She majored in theatre and spent some years trying to break into film. She's doing community theatre and training you women in volleyball (she lives in florida). But she just couldn't break into film. She grew tired of the bit parts and commercials.
She's very happy now. I believe here when she said it, but its now a dream reimagined. It seems unfair when you see people ruin things others would love to have.
And you are right, if we don't deal with our traumas we will keep blowing up relationships and choosing partners who will participate in the blow up.