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A Poem and Essay │The Breakup Series │Breakup Poetry
Breakups Aren’t Easy for Either Side
But how do you find the words to give closure?
No matter how self-actualized or self-realized you may have become breakups are so difficult. It’s no fun on either side. It’s not easy to sit and hear a person say words that break your heart nor is it easy being the person who has to say, “we’re over, we’re done, we tried.”
Nonetheless, when we expand our consciousness and put our authentic self in the driver’s seat of our self-awareness journey, we know closure is essential. It is what each partner in a relationship needs to move on.
In fact, Mariana Bockarova, Ph.D., a researcher at the University of Toronto, in her article entitled Why We Need Closure from Broken Relationships states:
“I’ve heard the mantra, “no one can give you closure but yourself”. It’s usually said defeatedly while holding back tears after they’ve explained that their former partner refuses to acknowledge why the relationship ended. The mantra, unsurprisingly, often comes as a form of advice from well-meaning friends, family members, or co-workers trying to be sympathetic…”
I’ve always said, if you aren’t the party that ended the relationship, then you can’t give yourself closure. Unless you’ve…
