If I could give you a standing ovation here, Christina I would. Yes, I agree. The conditions are placed on the relationship and not necessarily “love” itself.

And as Yana shared here in the comments, those “overt displays of love” are just that displays. That’s what we hear in wedding ceremonies. It becomes less about a love shared and more so about what feels good right now and what “I” am getting from the relationship, hence, transactional.