Wow, I never saw this as a form of co-dependency. But I have hauled around other people's issues most of my life. I remember when I grew my hair out and I'd lost a few pounds, a friend of mine who had been struggling with weight management most of her life said, "oh you look so great. I really need to do something. I just don't know what to do." I felt so guilty. I could feel her sadness and I wanted to fix it. I told her everything I'd been doing as of late. But the look in her eyes looked like defeat.