Yes, Melinda and this is why I think it is a form of self-sabotage. He can produce his own films. Yes, restore your good name. He could have written a book and restored his good name. He could have done a round of interviews and restored his name. He could have done a documentary and restored his good name.

And that's why it became a question of not really being "finished" with this relationship. As a coach, I know you are more familiar than I am with making a clean break with relationships and moving on. Sometimes you practice unhealthy behaviors so long that health and wellbeing will look and feel strange to you.